For anyone who knows me. I am going through a breakup with my longtime partner of 9 years, we have a child together and everything is complicated. We try to stay amicable and I try to be careful with any of my work to not be disrespectful.

I recently found a house to move in to and it’s me moving out of the family home 10 minutes away. We announced our decision to our child and my other child from a past relationship too. They took the news extremely well. I don’t know if our daughter realises fully but we are not going to focus on the negatives when she is seeing it positively, why should she be depressed when she seems very happy. It’s been a long time since mummy and daddy cuddled or kissed in front of her. I think even a 6 year is not oblivious to the signs even if you think they are. Children are very intelligent.

Anyway, I am moving out over yesterday, today and tomorrow. Doing it by myself, a 40 year old with a dodgy back, I’ve done the hardest step yesterday, 2 days to go.

Me and my little girl will be sleeping at the new place tonight, I have to buy a ton of things, will probably forget tons of things, will see.

Don’t be like me and stay in a loveless relationship for the sake of your child. It is painful, it will undoubtedly be painful, I have lost 6 kgs, put on a bit and the last 3 weeks I have lost 3 kgs again, normal with the stress I think.

Do the kindest thing for everyone and think about yourself. Put yourself first, and if someone tells you that you are selfish, ignore it. Self help starts with self!

Love yourself